Helpful & Beautiful

Kristine Cucinotta Murphy

Imagine taking the time to make or build something to give to someone as a gift. You put all of your heart, time, work into making something to last. Hard pressed for time as it is having to work and fulfil all the other responsibilities and duties of your life. But, the love you have in creating something someone could use and even more so, the love you have for that person.

A love to desire to give that person something they could use and even enjoy for years and years to come. Even so unique to be cherished, it is passed down from generation to generation.

Imagine seeing that precious gift being showcased by the great grandchild of the one you gave it to. It would make you feel great wouldn’t it? To see what you created not only was a huge help to someone but for many people and they cared for it, passed it on, and to see your craftsmanship last that long.

Now, imagine that same someone receive your gift, and make a quiet, thanks to you. You take the time to tell them how they must care for it, how to use it to be a help to them. That person shrugs their shoulders saying “Okay” and walks away with it.

At home with your gift, that person tries to use it but, they really don’t understand it and how it works and starts to frustrate over it. That person calls you and starts to get upset telling you “It’s not working right.” You encourage them by saying, ” You have to be patient with it, it’s designed to help you but, not do it all for you.” You explain again how they are to handle it, saying “Give it another try.” The person calms down and decide to try it again since it was given to them.

Later on, you decide to go over and see how that person is doing. Before reaching their house you hear a bunch of screaming, banging and slamming going on. So, you decide to come back another time to visit.

This time, you start walking toward their front door and there on the front porch is that person, stomping, cussing at, kicking and punching that gift you gave them.

It’s in shambles, it will take twice as long to fix it than when you first built it. Your heart sinks, all that love you put in this creation and time you devoted late nights after working 12hr shifts, losing sleep to make something useful to help that person and something for them to appreciate and cherish.

And there it lays in pieces on the ground at your feet because they didn’t understand it, because they got mad and destroyed it rather than just call you and ask for more understanding. Or, at least have the heart to appreciate what you made and the love behind the gift to showcase it, telling the whole world your hands and skills made that for them, even if they didn’t understand it. Knowing they were loved that much you went out of your way to make them something unique. The one that created that gift is God. That gift that was given to you is your wife. Selah

Colossians 3:19 – Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

1 Peter 3:7-8 – Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (Read More…)

Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5:28 – So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

Galatians 3:28 – There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

Ephesians 5:25-28 – Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Read More…)

Malachi 2:16 – For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

2 Timothy 1:7 – For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Ephesians 5:28-29 – So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (Read More…)

Titus 3:2 – To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.