Is It Love?

Kristine Cucinotta Murphy

We must discern. It’s one thing to be able to discern and rightfully divide the truth, it’s another to actually apply it.

Romans 12:2 – And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

This article is based on abuse in relationships.

Colossians 2:8 – Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.

Sweet, kind and innocent: a controller telling their victim everything they want to hear, but truthfully they have evil intentions to gain full control over them. The victim rarely sees the devices that are working against them right under their nose.

2 Corinthians 2:11 – Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.

Psalms 10:2 – The wicked in his pride doth persecute the poor: let them be taken in the devices that they have imagined.

That’s why it’s called being deceived. False pretenses, empty promises, hollow sorrys with no ounce of empathy.

Isaiah 32:7 – The instruments also of the churl are evil: he deviseth wicked devices to destroy the poor with lying words, even when the needy speaketh right.

They seek those of faith, forgiveness and believe strongly in commitment. Because, they will be able to use that as leverage to continue this vicious desire to use someone for their own personal gain with as little work and effort as possible.

An appearance of nice and seemingly loving, mixed with manipulative tactics to make one believe something is good that is not.

Isaiah 5:20 – Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!

Their undercover tactics are used when they are not angry. The controller will allow the victim to make their own choices at first to release themselves from the accountability of abusing their victim to fully control them.

If the victim does not do what the controller wants, they start the abusive dance with tantrum fits, negative woe is me doubting words, restrict finances, material things, food, shopping, monitor and manipulate what their victim is and not allowed to do. No Spiritual covering and wide open to let more evil move in.

Jeremiah 11:19 – But I was like a lamb or an ox that is brought to the slaughter; and I knew not that they had devised devices against me, saying, Let us destroy the tree with the fruit thereof, and let us cut him off from the land of the living, that his name may be no more remembered.

Is it love?

They must have their victim wrapped in their hand like a yo-yo. If they are not pleased, they slam the victim down and yank them back up by the emotional and/or vow string (also known as soul tie) which they attached onto the victim with. This up and down force: give and take away, give less and take away more will eventually affect the victim’s emotional state. Making the victim have little to no freedom nor space to be all Yahuah called them to be. Which is the intent of the controller.

Controllers whittle their victims down like wood to create them as wicked and evil as they are. A little here and a little there, to the point the victim doesn’t even know who they are anymore.

These giving phases give the victim a big taste of what they desire. But then, they cut their victim off by sending the victim into a withdrawal state like an addiction. Relying on the controller as their source for a love that is a mere mirage; it may look like love is there sometimes, but there is absolutely no love there. The victim starts to believe no matter the evil they allow, they have made a vow and there’s no way out. The victim’s heart is full of loving kindness and that’s the basis for the controller to hooks their claws in for the kill like a grizzly bear catching a big salmon fish.

The victim doesn’t like what is being done, knowing it is wrong but, will stick around or continuously return hoping for another taste of what was once given to them in the beginning. Or, a miraculous change will happen in the heart of their controller.

Eventually, the controller will starve out their victim in all areas. Even, to the point of losing faith in Yahuah and totally surrender to wickedness. The victim then is in a deep dark well without a way out and covers for their controller by make excuses for their evil doings.

Jeremiah 18:12 – And they said, There is no hope: but we will walk after our own devices, and we will every one do the imagination of his evil heart.

Is it love?

The mixture of kind and manipulation of nice turns completely wicked and vile to turn the victim’s committed caring heart into ice or wormwood; bitterness. This bitterness will cause the victim to be provoked to anger. Especially, when the controller starts to use physical force, chasing after or preventing the victim from leaving. Even if the victim must use violence out of self-defense. It is utter abuse, neglect and all out control of evil. A toxic relationship has been born.

Domestic violence has blossomed, screaming and fighting rarely stops, more but extreme manipulative threats being made, and police officers being called; prayerfully not to report a homicide. This happens more times than none. Do the research, don’t be the next statistic.

That’s not love, not of Yahuah.

John 1:5 – And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.

The controller will not comprehend the victim’s light. Only ,that they must put it out.

John 3:19-21 – And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil…

Hidden violence rages in homes today. Countless die from domestic violence, children not protected nor taught the ways of Yahuah and being planted seeds in them of pure evil. And, portray to those not behind closed doors everything is pure, righteous and holy. The true believer will put themselves in a bondage Yahuah has not commanded them to do, to either please and serve the loved one or to try and fix the situation they allowed themselves to be in.

2 Corinthians 6:14 – Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

Many homes are under a bondage of pure evil, believing the lie that they are obeying Yahuah by staying and covering for a controller in their home. The victim will never win over a controller. Nothing will satisfy the controller, but more control.

We can’t hold hands with the devil and please Yahuah.

The believer is filled with a fear that Yahuah has not given them. Either by shame and/or guilt.

The shame of living a false relationship with someone will eat a person alive in every way. Because, it is a flat out lie. Which is blasphemy.

There is a guilt for making a bad decision to have entered or stay in the relationship and refuse to leave it or by taking the blame for all the wicked that has intruded the home, which will undoubtedly keep the victim in a life threatening situation.

Shame and guilt are heavy weights that a believer will not be able to carry long without losing their light to shine, eventually losing faith and/or their very lives. Or, will finally find the courage and strength in Yahuah to once and for all leave the home and permanently terminate the relationship all together, no turning back.

Ephesians 5:8 – For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:

Psychological, Physical and Spiritual abuse is not Yahuah’s will for any one to submit to.

Yahuah is an Elohim of Mercy and Justice. Somehow, justice for a continued wrongful behavior has been watered down to not have a leg to stand on. Clearly, but cleverly disguised is a false twisted or froward doctrine people in abusive situations have and still are standing under.

Deuteronomy 13:7-8 – 7 Namely, of the gods of the people which are round about you, nigh unto thee, or far off from thee, from the one end of the earth even unto the other end of the earth;
8 Thou shalt not consent unto him, nor hearken unto him; neither shall thine eye pity him, neither shalt thou spare, neither shalt thou conceal him:

So many people are believing they have to conceal an abusive relationship to please Yahuah. “Covenant Keeper” But, in order to be a true covenant keeper “ALL” must be in subject to Yahuah and obey him above all.

One bad apple spoils the whole bunch.

1 Corinthians 15:33-34 – Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
34 Awake to righteousness, and sin not; for some have not the knowledge of God: I speak this to your shame.

In a three strand cord relationship, scripture states “can not be easily or quickly” broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 – And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

But, it shall be broken if one or more are not doing the commandments Yahuah has told us to do.

Luke 12:51-53 – 51 Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather division:
52 For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three.
53 The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.

There will be reprocussions for the believer allowing and staying in a manipulative, abusive controlling situation.

The victim may start to retaliate having enough and possibly end up with blood on their hands.

Or, the victim may end up dying in the hands of the controller from the many evil spirits that multiply daily for allowing this behavior to continue.

Not to mention all of the unnecessary added stress that will cause their body to become sick.

Exodus 9:1 – Then the Lord said unto Moses, Go in unto Pharaoh, and tell him, Thus saith the Lord God of the Hebrews, Let my people go, that they may serve me.

Is it love?

The victim that returns to reality and the “Light” shown that their controller will not change and there is nothing they can do to save their controller will be given the strength and courage to get up out of their miry hole, wash their feet, wash their face, anoint their head and be a fire lighting up the world to minister the freedom of Yahuah’s agape love. Being a true Fisher of Men, setting the captives free. But, of those Elohim Almighty shall lead them to minister to. Not all will be saved and that is a hard pill to swallow. And, even if Yahuah chooses to save the controller, it won’t be in the victim’s presence. Because, the controller gains a high voltage of overloaded power that must be quickly unplugged before serious damage is done.

1 Corinthians 7:15-23 – But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.
19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God.
20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.
21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather.
22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord’s freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ’s servant.
23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men.