Kristine Cucinotta Murphy
—A Brother’s Advice:
When people are trying to trap you in your words, sometimes it’s wiser to remain silent than to speak.”
Be of self control, use discernment, the battle is the Lord’s, we don’t wrestle against flesh and blood, submit to the Holy Spirit and ask him to move and watch what he does, we are just mere vessels.
But the Lord said unto him, Go thy way: for he is a chosen vessel unto me, to bear my name before the Gentiles, and kings, and the children of Israel:”–Acts 9:15
When the Holy Spirit is in control, he does things differently when dealing with attacks. I’ve witnessed it myself being attacked to be trapped. He knows how to shut it down and he is not always silent. But, the advice to remain silent is worth much, that is the first step to submitting to the Holy Spirit.
I mastered this being immovable, on the look out, ready to call on the Lord to fight for me dealing with attacks from a loved one, before mine husband and I married and the things the Holy Spirit had me say or do, I would of never in my life. The Lord has shut down attacks that left me dumbfounded picking my jaw up off the floor, doing doubletakes, eyes wide open trying to comprehend what I just witnessed. But! I wasn’t the one fighting the battles.
The Lord shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.”–Exodus 14:14
Yet, I couldn’t hold my peace and submit to the Holy Spirit when attacks came in our marriage. And, it frustrated me so!
This is an extremely difficult “level up” of spiritual warfare in a marriage; being husband and wife we tend to take everything personal. Our emotional sensitivity level is highest on the chart. Our unrealistic expectations our spouse will never leave nor forsake us is our first step in the enemy’s net.
It is hard to separate or step outside of the box to see our spouse is no different than anyone else when it comes to spiritual influence and warfare.
It is even harder to imagine our spouse being weak or not care enough, to not allow anything to come at us to cause us hurt and harm.
But, our spouse is the first place the enemy will come. That enemy has been sent to every home for every reason and purpose God allows him for us to get even closer to God, to pray, study and train.
Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.
(When a spouse blames their spouse for trying to separate them from a family member it just burns me up, no it is not your spouse dividing you from that loved one, stop blaming what God is allowing and know his Word)
35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.
37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.
39 He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.
40 He that receiveth you receiveth me, and he that receiveth me receiveth him that sent me.
This is the real deal, kindergarten play time, painting colorful wood crosses to wear as a necklace is over.
If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.“–Luke 14:26
(Someone always against a loved one for believing they are trying to keep them from a loved one and split them up, when in all reality, The Lord is doing the dividing and against you)
This is grown up, not for the faint of heart, for the mature in the word, flavored with salt that burns on those feelings being cut and wounded real heavy cross carrying, humility bearing, faith muscle building work out.
We must slap ice cold water on our own faces and wake up to learn to pray through these battles together, by letting the Lord fight for us, not fighting against each other. We are ONE FLESH!
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:”–Ephesians 5:29
And yet, we find ourselves separating ourselves in our mind from our spouse: How could he/she hurt me, my feelings, ignore me, not regard me above him/herself and not even care about me?
The biggest and heaviest spiritual battlefield is in marriage. And when we allow the Lord to win that war, he takes us onto other battlefields within our home and family, if not simultaneously, battlefields becoming one big massacre sight.
And, even though both mine husband and I have failed to not take things said or done by each other personal; fell for the bait, trapped, if it wasn’t for our individual prayer lives with God, our marriage would of been left for dead on that battlefield.
The number one thing that I knew and was certain to even say yes to marry mine husband was his prayer life and him asking if I wanted him to pray for me and with me the very first phone call we had and every night there after. We still pray together everyday and night, even when we were in the heat of battle fighting against each other.
Even if we were not in the same room, text prayers, voicemail prayers, any way to send the other a prayer it was done.
Now, those prayers sounded rough, they were no comfort or delight to hear, even screaming prayers at times, even at God, prayers of balling tears, prayers of tongues, prayers of stutters and groans, prayers of I don’t know what to say, just deal with it God, but prayer life can not stop breathing or we are done for.
Hold your Peace
Call on &
Submit to the Holy Spirit
Let the Lord Fight for you
It takes prayer, studying and training!